Knowing your goals presupposes that you are aware of your own needs in the framework of your relationships with a person, and you know how to express them in formal expectations to be presented to him/her.

A typical situation is the beginning of an informal relationship with no precise framework; in the mean time, because of circumstances and the lack of reflection on what is really mutually expected in this relationship, sometimes also because of the ignorance of one's own needs, the situation is maintained with no goal(s). It is important though to clarify this point : starting a relationship with somebody without any goal is just like entering a car about to move without any precise destination. When the mutual goals of the parties concerned remain vague, you take the risk of playing a hide-and-seek game until one of you becomes tired and decides to stop the game and discontinue the relationship.

Which goals ? « Have a good time together », « teach me how to draw », « support each other in difficulties », « find new business together  », these are examples of goals in the various aspects of our personal and professional life as well as in business.

- Your goals are clear from the beginning of the relationship  : this is the best situation. When you know what you expect from a relationship with somebody, in addition you took time to explain this to your partner and vice versa, the odds are that this relationship starts on sound foundations because each of you knows from the beginning how to mobilize his/her energy to reach these goals.

- Your goals are not clear  : for some people, « goals are just relevant for salesmen or businessmen who always need to assess the progress of such a situation, such performance …”. However, having some goals is necessary because those who do not know what they want spin while others go ahead. Such goals shall be stated clearly and not in general and vague terms ( « I want to improve my relationships with Christian   » => improve them in which field ? How ?).