It is possible to classify human relationships according to various criteria. Those adopted here are the feelings and interest . In the first category, are included human relationships based on :
. friendship
. or love (from the father, mother, brother or sister, love between men and woman etc…) .
In the second category, are the relationships based on interest , whatever its nature might be :
. intellectual interest (for example in the scientific field),
. political interest (for example in a political group)
. financial interest (for example in a business partnership),
. material interest (for example the visit of a needy cousin … before introducing his problem).
Each type of relationship has its own ways of functioning, logical framework and constraints. It is self-evident to recall that a person lead by love does not act on the same bases as if it was friendship context. It may however happen sometimes that the gap between both becomes blurred, especially when the relationship changes in between without the partners having had the time to realize it (classic example of a relationship based on friendship becoming a love relation). It is here that problems start since the expectations, the demands and the functioning logic are no more the same : behaviours sometimes lag behind because the partners have had no time to adjust to the situation.
Juxtaposing a relationship based on feelings with one based on interest is viewed by some people as a problem while other people consider it as an opportunity. This is the case of classic stratagems whereby feelings are inserted in a relationship entirely based on interest in the hope of strengthening this relationship in the long term (for example, the typical case of employees starting extra-professional relations with their boss or superior).
Finally, what may be said on the importance of roles in human relationships ? The example of Mr Hugo hereunder reminds us that in the course of our lives, we wear various “caps” corresponding to the different roles and positions we accept in society. It is not always easy to avoid mixing the “caps” or to remain within the logical framework of a given “cap”. Such is the case of some people who, once back at home, anachronistically continue there with their dictatorial behaviour from the office where they need to keep their employees under control this way. It is also the case with friends who consistently remain in a friendship context in the framework of their relationships with their partners and friends, far from the rigour imposed by a business relationship. The summary chart p. 21 focuses on the difficulties to handle these problems.
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